Update February 24 2015 -- The origins of swinging (casual sex among couples) are sometimes debated, but one thing is quite clear. And that is the fact that swinging and wife swapping really began to take off after World War II.
This essay will attempt to answer some of the most common questions and curiosities about the swinger lifestyle. They are:
When did the swinger lifestyle become popular?
How easy is it to meet other couples for wife swapping?
Where do we meet other swinger couples?
Is there usually intimacy among swinger couples on the first meeting?
Is it possible to attend clubs and swinger parties and just watch without participating?
Most people are well aware that sex orgies go back at least as far as Roman times. Roman orgies have been well documented in literature and later in movies. The Greeks are also credited with these types of activities.
But what about the modern version of orgies, group sex, and wife swapping?
There is every indication that swinging really began to take off with American military personnel in the late 1940's and early 1950's. More specifically, it was amongst U.S. pilots swapping wives amongst each other near Air Force bases. Some say the practice among American flyers actually started during World War II. With mortality rates high in their profession, these pilots adopted a "live life to the fullest" attitude and that led to swinging and wife swapping around the bases.
Whatever its origins, millions of couples around the world now enjoy swinging, wife swapping and relationships with a cuckold husband who enjoys watching his wife having sex with other men and many times with other men and women. Gangbangs are very popular amongst couples with a cuckold husband.
There are many places to meet swinger couples these days thanks to the popularity of the World Wide Web. Back in the day, couples interested in swinging had to either live in or travel to larger cities. There they could find clubs. It was also easier to simply meeting other men and women who were very open-minded in the bars an clubs.
These days, couples of all ages and from towns both big and small are meeting online via swinger personal ads.
Swinger personal ads and swinger personals have become very popular online in the last 10 to 15 years. They are without a doubt the safest and easiest way to meet others. You simply join and begin checking out the other members.
Your search can be conducted as close to you as looking in your own suburb. Many swingers do not like to wife swap so close to home, so they may look for couples in the next town over.
Those who wish to remain very discreet, meet couples for swinging that may live several states away. Some take it even farther than that and swing in other countries or even continents using global swingers personals.
So, let's say you've browsed the local swinger ads and classifieds online, made contact with a couple, and set a date. What should you expect to happen on that first swinger date?
That really depends on what you've discussed with the other couple prior to actually meeting eye-to-eye. On the other hand, you really never know how these types of "dates" or meetings will play out.
Some can be as casual as a dinner with plans being made to meet again. Others -- especially when alcohol is present -- can lead to a full-on swinging and wife swapping experience right there on the first night. You simply never know until you actually meet other wife swappers for the first time. It should always be made very clear upfront that this is a no strings attached sex arrangement. This goes a long way in building trust.
There are many clubs where things are very casual and couples can simply watch others having sex or participate if they so choose. One of the more popular establishments like this for people from all walks of life is the Red Rooster in Las Vegas.
You will have a pretty good idea of whether or not you want to stay almost as soon as you enter such clubs. The more inviting and successful clubs look like a normal party when you first walk in. There will be a bar area and a place for couples to lounge and get to know each other over drinks. Many clubs will also have a pool.
Don't think for a minute that it's as tame as the casual area you see when you first enter! The real action is taking place in private rooms. At the above mention Red Rooster, those rooms are upstairs. That's where things get a little more wild and where the real fun begins.
Entering that part of swinger club does not commit you and your partner to anything. Well, it shouldn't anyway. Go have a look! Watch others at play and then decide if you want to join in. It really is up to you and at no time should you feel any pressure. If you do and it makes you uncomfortable, simply leave the area and go back to the lounge to make other plans with a couple of your choosing.
And yes, gays and lesbians also participate in swinging. They may be singles or gay and lesbian couples. Many can be found in online swinger ads, although singles are more likely to be found in local sex personals.
The typical couple that gets into the adult dating lifestyle would be middle class and have a relationship that is around 7 years old on average. Things have typically become stale, but they have a great deal of trust in each other and their love. The decision to get into wife swapping is usually made once this is clearly established.
Most partners choose to check out the clubs and do a little flirting with others. It is often the husband's fantasy to watch his wife with another man or woman. That's not a bad way to start and can usually be accomplished after a few cocktails at a local swinger club.
Single women can be found in the scene and comes in all ages, shapes and sizes, including BBW and cougars.
Cuckold husbands abound as well. These are guys who like to watch their partner get it on with other men -- sometimes in a gangbang situation. Their is a growing trend among cuckold husbands who want to watch their wife having sex with a black man or several black men at once.
Adult dating and group sex, a.k.a., wife swapping, never seems to slow down in cities like Los Angeles, San Francisco and San Diego. It kind of hit a fever pitch in those cities in the 1970's and has just continued to grow and grow to this day. You might say New York City was a little late to the party, but the swinging scene has grown by leaps and bounds in the Big Apple since the 1980s.
Here is a video in which actual swinger couples discuss swinging and wife swapping.
People are far more practical in this day and age when it comes to sexuality. Monogamy is not a thing of the past, but many see it as restricting and quite dated. Many wife swapping swingers see no sense in being in a binding and restricted type of relationship.
Insecurity and jealously goes out the window with swingers. There is just no room for it in their relationship. Some are beginning to refer to these types of relationships as "hotwifing." Hotwifing is a belief by husbands, cuckold or otherwise, that their wife is so hot that he should watch her have sex with other men.
You find this extensively in Los Angeles swinger personal ads and San Francisco swingers personals.
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